The One Step that Will Give You Everything You Want

Option 1: Know you are enough to have what you want easily now.

Option 2: If you don’t know it, decide to notice it now.

Option 3: If you don’t think you can decide to notice it now, wait for life to make not deciding to notice it now so painful that you realize  deciding to notice it now is your best option.

-Andy

Thought for the Day: Life’s Job is to Create Painful Situations

Life’s ultimate goal is for you to know yourself more fully.

Life’s job is to create painful situations that you find challenging to accept.

The purpose of these painful situations is to provide you with opportunities to know who you are beyond any thought about who you are.

The purpose is to help you more easily stop investing your attention, time and energy in thoughts about who you are and to notice you are life itself.

Since you are life itself. this is the process of you freeing yourself from any and all misinterpretations of who you are so you can know yourself more fully.

This is you helping yourself.

The more committed you are to a particular thought about who you are, the more trapped in it you are.

That’s why the more committed you are to a particular thought about who are, the more challenging the situations will become for it until you become free from that thought.

This is because the human body is first motivated by avoiding pain and then by moving towards pleasure.

Life needs to make these situations painful enough that you become motivated to stop investing your attention, time and energy in these thoughts.

Life is simply making your choice more clear – keep investing in this thought and experience more pain, or explore who you are beyond this thought.

Sometimes life has to create situations where someone continuing to invest in a particular thought about who they are becomes so unbearable that they feel their only options are to stop investing or die.

When you accept that life’s job is to create these painful situations for your benefit, you can suddenly feel grateful knowing that all of your life is completely on your side – even the challenging parts.

When you accept that life’s goal is for you to know yourself more fully, you can begin to work with life more fully by accepting everything that happens more quickly knowing that everything that happens is for your benefit.

You can relax more about your life turning out better in the future because that’s what it is always doing – it is continuing to get better – and it’s not willing to leave you behind.

You can relax knowing  life has you covered.

-Andy

 

What if We are How We Want to Feel?

What if we are the energy we want to experience?

In other words, what if we are how we most want to feel?

What f anytime we don’t feel like ourselves, it is simply because a thought has gotten in the way?

What if anytime we are not experiencing energy we want (anytime we are not feeling how we want), it is because the energy we want has become trapped in a thought: a thought that assumes that some ‘thing’ can and might change the energy we experience.

That ‘thing’ could be a job, a relationship, the shape of our body, an idea about how our next creation might turn out, really any circumstance or situation.

What if this thought is the only thing in the way of us experiencing our complete selves in that moment?

What if by simply choosing to no longer assume or expect that this ‘thing’ can or might change our energy (can or might change how we feel), we can instantly experience the energy we want again or in other words, we can instantly be ourselves again?

What if by simply no longer assuming or expecting that the job, the relationship, the shape of our body, the idea about how our next creation might turn out, etc can or might change the way we feel, we can instantly feel like our complete selves again?

-Andy

5 Steps to Total Bliss

What if total bliss is our natural state?
 
What if anytime we are not feeling total bliss it is because our attention has become focused away from this natural state, the feelings of total bliss, onto something that isn’t even real?
 
What if simply knowing that this is happening and having a way to notice and begin reversing it when it does, can help us more easily experience this natural state more often?
 
Here’s a new change pattern I’m working on to help reconnect with our natural state of total bliss anytime we’re not “feeling it”.
 
If this seems exciting, the next time you are feeling less than total bliss, try out the following five steps and start beginning to reverse the habit of focusing your attention away from your natural state and more permanently reconnect to total bliss. Ask yourself each question, notice the answers you get and how you feel at the end.

1. “How am I resisting total bliss right now?”

      Feel the resistance in your body. It might feel like a tightness or constriction.

2. “What thoughts am I focusing on instead?”

      Notice the who, what, where, when and why of the scenario being played out in your thoughts.

3. “What or who am I assuming has the power to determine if I am good or not in this situation?”

      Notice the specifics of how you have given over your power to decide whether you are good or not to something or someone in this              situation. 

    “Is this really true? Does it or do they really have that ability, or have I simply given it over to them in my mind?”

4. “How is it feeling to let go of this assumption and know this or they can’t determine whether I am good or not?”

Let yourself feel all the feelings of what it would feel like to be absolutely certain this or they can’t determine whether you are good or not.

5. “What could I decide right now that would make sure I never let a situation like this feel less than total bliss?

      Notice what ideas come to mind and what decision(s) you might now want to make.

-Andy

 

Space for the Day: Are We the Canvas of Our Life?

What if the space in which everything that is happening right now is the ultimate canvas?

What if we are the space in which everything that is happening right now?

What if everything that is happening in that space is the paint, the brushes, the tools, etc: all the elements that go into the creation of the perfect piece of art that is our life being created each moment?

What if when we stay focused on the whole canvas and participate with our greatest excitement in the creation of the perfect piece of art that is our life by simply guiding and allowing all the elements that are here to find their perfect place on the canvas each moment, it is easy to remember how fun life can really be?

Isn’t this how we did it when we were kids?

 

Happiness is Focusing Attention Beyond Thoughts

Space for the Day:

Never give away your power to define who you are to anyone for any reason.

The ones who love who you truly are will love you more, and the ones who only love what they want you to be for them will free up space in your life by no longer being there.

-Andy

Space for the Day:

In my experience so far, everything is possible as long as we don’t get too focused on the specifics about exactly what it has to be or exactly when it has to happen too early in the process of allowing it to happen. When we remember, we can’t always know that far ahead of time what the best results for us are (and that that is constantly changing with each new moment) and we instead focus mostly on making sure we continue to bring the energy we want to feel to everything that happens and continue to notice we are enough to be loved in all the ways we want exactly as we are now as things continue to unfold, the most exciting results can continue to happen in the most effortless ways possible. We can then continually  look back and say “Wow, that was the absolute best thing that just happened!”

-Andy

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Space for the Day:

 

I might be wrong, but if we take a step back from the world and look at it from a birds eye view, what seems to be wrong with the world is people thinking they can fix the world because the thought that they can fix the world presupposes that the world needs fixing and that they can know how to fix it and that thought gets in the way of them noticing how the world is already always perfect without them needing to do anything.
 
This thought causes them to take all kinds of action based on the assumptions that:
 
A) The world is less than perfect now and
 
B) They can somehow know what is better
 
Actions based on these two assumptions seem to continue to create circumstances that appear to be less than perfect to themselves and others because maybe these assumptions are less than accurate.
 
What might happen if we (you and me) decided to only take action to change things based on the assumption that the world and our life is always perfect as it is now without us having to do anything?
 
What might we discover motivates our actions when we assume this and what kind of circumstances could we create?
In other words, what if we stop trying to fix shit and start to fully pay attention to and enjoy the perfection that is already here now and just keep taking the next most exciting step?

 

Space for the Day:

How to be happy now:

Focus on the space in which everything is instead of on your thoughts.

How to be happy for the rest of your life:

Keep focusing on the space in which everything is instead of on your thoughts.

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Thought for the Day: What is the Ego?

Unhappiness is created by your brain’s neural connections that have been labeled the ego.
 
The simplest way to understand what the ego is might be to say that the ego is your brain’s assumption that: “I might not be enough to be loved.”
 
The personality, the story line and the behaviors of the ego develop from it’s attempt to prove that assumption wrong.
 
All hope and fear is created from this assumption also. Behind all hope is your ego’s hope that it will someday discover through some “thing” that you are enough to be loved.
 
Behind all fear is your ego’s fear that it will discover through some “thing”, that you are not enough to be loved.
 
In everyday life, the more certain your ego is that this assumption is wrong, the happier it tells you you can feel, and the more certain your ego is that this assumption is right, the less happy it tells you you can feel.
 
Lasting happiness is beyond your ego and beyond hope and fear.
 
Lasting happiness is noticing you are enough to be loved because you are love itself and that no “thing” could ever change that.
 
What you want the most lies directly through and beyond your ego – on the other side of what it wants the most and what it fears the most.
 
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Thought for the Day:

What if being happy is noticing the truth?

What if there is only one main truth that exists?

What if all unhappiness is caused by your thoughts distracting you from noticing this one truth and to be happy in any moment you can simply notice what is beyond these thoughts and experience the truth without distraction?

What if the one main truth is: “All is good”?

What if all unhappiness is generated from thoughts that suggest that life, us or things might be something less than good?

What if we no longer allow ourselves to get distracted from noticing:

Life is good,

we are good,

and things are good (especially when we let them keep getting better by not getting distracted by our thoughts)?

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Thought for the Day:

Things they come

And things they go

I stay happy

Whichever way things flow

-Andy

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Thought for the Day: How to Have Complete Confidence

A lack of confidence is the result of you putting something other than yourself in charge of you feeling good about yourself.

Complete confidence in a situation is noticing you are in charge of feeling good about yourself no matter how the situation might turn out.

Complete confidence in life is noticing you are in charge of feeling good about yourself no matter what has, what is or what will ever happen.

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How to Be Happy

Thought for the Day: How to Be Successful in Life

Eliminate the option of trying to find certainty in the stuff that is happening and develop the skill of discovering certainty beyond anything that happens.

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Thought for the Day:

Your certainty does not come from results, results come from your certainty.

Be certain that things will be great and things will be great.

-Andy

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How to Run Your Brain for Maximum Happiness

As our brain develops, it begins to make three inaccurate assumptions that can severely limit our happiness every day of our lives. When we notice these assumptions and decide to experiment with living without them, we can triple our levels of daily happiness or even better.

These three assumptions are just thought patterns that get repeated so many times that they become a habit of us picturing the world in away that often feels less than how we want. It’s like our life is an ongoing, endless universe of possibilities and these assumptions have put a tiny picture frame around them so we only ever notice a very small amount of what’s possible, and the possibilities we do notice, we often times give them a less than accurate meaning that makes us feel less happiness than we want to.

The three assumptions are:

  1. I am not yet complete as I am now

  2. Things are less than perfect as they are now

  3. Something must change in order for me to feel how I want

Most of us have woken up everyday for many years with every thought about what might happen that day being filtered through these three assumptions.

It’s as if these three assumptions have cast us in a life long movie and focused all our attention on it. The movie could be titled: “My Impossible Project of Trying to Complete Me in an Imperfect World Where I Always Have to Try to Get Things to Change in Certain Ways.”

What if we started to question these assumptions and began to explore whether they were true or not?

What if we have actually already finished the project of completing ourselves and we just never noticed? What if we don’t have to be any different than we are now to feel complete?

What if everything that is happening in our life right now is actually the perfect thing exactly as it is?

What if nothing has to change in any particular way ever in order for us to feel however we want for the rest of our life?

What if we found a way to wake up each day and notice:

      1. I am complete as I am now

      2. Things are perfect as they are now, and

      3. Nothing has to change in order for me to feel how I want right now

How would it feel to begin each day experiencing things like this?

How to Make the World a More Tolerant Place

At the root of intolerant behavior is a pattern of thinking that some people can fall into to the point they become unaware of it.

For many people, their intolerant behavior cannot change for good until they become aware of this pattern of thinking and feel the negative impact it has been creating for them personally to the point they choose to begin looking for other ways to look at and think about the world.

The basic pattern is that the person thinks:

I can only feel important enough if they (the people or group of people they are being intolerant of) become more ___________, or less ___________.”

The blanks might get filled in differently for different people, but the pattern is the same for all intolerance.

In some people, this pattern can become broader and broader to include more and more of the world’s population to the point where a person can think:

I can only feel important enough when the world becomes a more _________place or a less____________ place.”

Again, the blanks might get filled in differently for different people, but the pattern is the same for all intolerance.

The broader the pattern becomes for a person, and the more committed the person becomes to their intolerance, the more overwhelming and painful it can be for them because their ability to change a larger and larger amount of people’s behaviors can feel less and less possible, making their underlying desire to feel important enough seem less and less possible.

Below is a short 5 step, fill in the blank survey you can ask someone you feel might be suffering from this pattern to take that might help them recognize they have fallen into this pattern and might help them more easily find their way out.

Fill in each blank. For each new sentence, fill in the first blank with the same words you put into the blank at the end of the previous sentence. The word “they” refers to the person or people you wish would change.

  1. I wish they were acting/ being more _______________, or less ___________________.”

  1. If they were more _____________, then I would feel more _______________about/in this (situation).”

  2. If I felt more ________________ about/in this situation, and about/in situations like this, I could probably be more________________ more of the time.”

  3. If I could be more _____________, I might feel I could be a more________________ person in general.”

  4. If I felt I was a more ______________ person in general, the situations like this might feel less __________________ to me and I could just ________________ instead of thinking about it so much.

Thought for the day:

Your confidence in yourself is what makes the relationships in your life work.

Find a way to notice that what another person thinks or feels about you does not limit what you can think and feel about you, and your relationships will always work in the best ways possible.

-Andy

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Thought for the Day:

Your confidence is what makes the stuff in your life work.

Find a way to feel confident about stuff no matter what shows up and the stuff in your life will always work.

Confidence is nothing more than feeling certain that things will be good.

Find a way to feel certain that things will be good no matter what happens and things will be good.

-Andy

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Thought for the Day:

 We create our own problems when we think:

Who I have to be in this situation might limit who I most want to be in life.”

We discover our own solutions when we choose a new role to play in the situation that allows us to feel:

Who I get to be in this situation is helping me be more of who I most want to be in life!”

Learn how to eliminate any problem in 5 minutes or less here: http://www.andyharrisonmusic.com/how-to-discover-and-maintain-your-most-effortless-and-exciting-life/

-Andy

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How to Discover and Maintain Your Most Effortless and Exciting Life

What gets in the way of your life feeling effortless and exciting sometimes?

Is it money? Is it your health? Is it some relationships or lack of a relationship? Is it not being clear enough about your passion and purpose? Is it something else?

We all have stuff that gets in the way of our life feeling effortless and exciting sometimes. When we find it challenging to discover what it is and let it go, this stuff can begin to weigh on our happiness, our success and even our health.

But what if there was a way to discover and let go of this stuff as soon as it came up or, even better, before it even started?

What if life is supposed to be effortless and exciting almost all of the time?

What if any time life feels less than effortless and exciting it’s because some easily identifiable stuff is getting in the way of how it’s supposed to be? And what if this stuff was completely within our ability to discover and let go of quickly and easily and as soon as we did, life instantly began to feel effortless and exciting now at an even greater level?

What if the job of all our challenges in life is to help us discover and let go of the stuff in the way of how life is supposed to be so we can experience even more of the effortless excitement that IS who we naturally are? And what if we could learn how to more easily and quickly participate in this natural process and live a life that continues to feel and be better than we could have imagined before?

What if any problem you have or could ever experience was caused by this one simple formula inside your head?

A problem = any time who you think you have to be in a situation doesn’t match up with who you most want to be in life.

Think about it for a second. Think about any problem you have ever had or are now experiencing. Doesn’t it really come back to this?

You might think that a problem is caused by a circumstance – not enough money, time, love, clarity etc, but if you look a little deeper, you discover that any circumstance is just something to deal with. It only becomes a problem for you when you think who you have to be in that situation might limit who you most want to be in life.

What if the solution to any problem that will ever come up for the rest of your life is:

Make sure every role you choose to play matches up with who you most want to be as a person.

If this seems exciting, try out these four simple steps to quickly discover and let go of any of the stuff that is or could get in the way of your effortless excitement and to make sure every role you choose to play matches up with who you most want to be as a person.

Step 1) Discover what’s in the way:

Ask yourself and answer: “What’s happening in this situation that is causing or adding to the problem?”

Step 2) Discover the role you think you have to play in this situation:

Ask yourself and answer: “When this happens, who do I think the situation is wanting or demanding that I be?”

Step 3) Discover how the role is not matching up with who you most want to be:

Ask yourself and answer: “How do I think that having to be this in this situation might limit who I most want to be in life?”

Step 4) Redesign your role to match who you most want to be:

Ask yourself and answer:

A) “If things were perfect, how would I most want to be in life. What qualities would I have or still have?” List them all.

B) “What is the most exciting role I could play in this situation that would guarantee me being (all the qualities you listed above)? Who do I most want to be in this situation now?”

You might be amazed at how quickly a situation that felt overwhelming minutes before can suddenly feel more effortless and exciting after you match up the role you choose to play with who you most want to be. You might also discover a whole new range of exciting choices you never noticed before as you live with your new awareness.

-Andy

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How to Discover and Maintain Effortless Excitement in Your Relationships

What if relationships are supposed to be effortless and exciting most of the time?

What if anytime a relationship doesn’t feel effortless or exciting it’s simply because some stuff has gotten in the way of how it’s supposed to be? And what if we could quickly and easily discover what the stuff was and let it go anytime a relationship was feeling less than effortless and exciting?

What if the higher purpose of relationships was to make this stuff easier to let go?

There are only two things that go into creating any problem or challenge in a relationship:

  1. Each individual’s definition of themselves and

  2. The definitions of each person’s role in the relationship

Each individual’s definition of themselves is simply how each person answers the question: Who am I in life?

The definition of each person’s role in the relationship is simply how each person answers the question: Who am I in this relationship?

A problem or challenge in a relationship happens anytime these two things don’t match up, for one or both people. Effortless excitement is a result of when these two things do match up. In other words, what we want is for who we are in the relationship to match up with who we want to be in life.

A problem in a relationship is when one or both people think: The definition of their role in the relationship might limit their definition of themselves. In other words a problem in a relationship is when one or both people think: Who I have to be in this relationship might limit who I want to be in life.

Effortless excitement happens in a relationship when the definition of the roles in the relationship do not limit or even better, enhance both people’s definitions of themselves. Effortless excitement happens in a relationship when both people think: Who I get to be in this relationship is helping me be more of who I want to be in life.

You can use these four simple steps to discover and let go of what’s in the way of the effortless excitement in your relationships.

Step 1: Discover what they are doing to create or add to the problem.

Answer this question: “What are they doing that is causing or adding to the problem?”

Step 2: Discover the role you think they are wanting or expecting you to play in the relationship because of what they are doing.

Answer this question: Who do you think they are wanting or expecting you to be in the relationship because of what they are doing?

Step 3: Discover how this doesn’t match up with who you want to be.

Answer this question: How do you think who they are wanting or expecting you to be in the relationship might limit who you want to be in life?

Step 4: Discover and implement new definitions. You can do this step with the other person or by yourself.

A) First take the opportunity to re evaluate who you want to be in life. Often times a problem in a relationship can be one of your greatest tools in discovering even better versions of how to define yourself.

Answer the question: If things were perfect, how would I most want to be in life? What qualities would I have or still have?

B) Then take the opportunity to discover the best definition for your role in the relationship that best lines up with your definition of yourself.

Answer the questions: What’s the most exciting role you can play in this relationship now that will guarantee you being (all the qualities you listed in question A)? Who do I most want to be in this relationship now?

What if the highest purpose of relationships is for us to experience more and more of our greatest selves and more and more of our greatest excitement? What if the job of challenges or problems in relationships is to bring out the stuff that is in the way of us experiencing our greatest selves and make it clear enough to more easily let it go so we can experience even more of the effortless excitement and joy that is who we are?

What if the people we are in relationships with are our greatest allies in this happening and we are theirs simply be being ourselves?

-Andy

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Thought for the Day:

The future takes care of itself when you take care of the present.

How much can you enjoy each moment as much as possible now while improving your circumstances as much as possible now?

-Andy

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How to Discover Your Effortless Success

What if living our perfect life was effortless? What if having what we want, doing what we are most excited about doing and being the person we most want to be was completely effortless and fun? What if the process of allowing it all to happen was easy, fun and totally exciting? What if life is actually designed to feel effortless and exciting all the time? 

When we are open to considering this, the next question is, if so, then how?

What if the only thing that stops life from being effortless and exciting all the time is a simple lack of awareness of what is true? What if any time life feels less than effortless, it is completely because our attention has gotten focused on an idea that is not true? What if by simply bringing more awareness to any situation that doesn’t feel effortless and exciting, we can discover what is true and this automatically allows life to be effortless and exciting again? What if this works in every area of life?

If this idea feels exciting to you, read on to discover a simple 3 step process to allowing your effortless success to continue even easier.

Step 1) Notice when you are not allowing effortless success to happen.

This is the most crucial step and is the beginning of bringing more awareness to your experience. If any of the 5 things below are happening for any situation, chances are you could be experiencing more effortless success with it.

  1. If what to do next is not clear

  2. If what is happening does not feel effortless and exciting

  3. If you are afraid that what is happening might limit you

  4. If you are trying to either force a change to happen, get away from the situation, or you are giving up what you want

  5. If you are not excited about any of the choices you seam to have in the situation

Step 2) Discover the untrue assumption that is keeping your awareness from what is true.

Fill in the blanks with your best answer for the situation:

A) “I am afraid that ____________________  might or will limit me.”

B) “I am assuming (fill in the same thing you put in the first blank) has the power to limit who I am.

Step 3) Let go of the untrue assumption and bring awareness to the truth.

A)  Discover what is true. Fill in the blank and say to yourself:

(whatever you filled in the blanks for the last question) does not have the power to limit who I am.”

B) Ask yourself: “How would it feel to be absolutely certain that (whatever you filled in the blanks for the last question) does not have the power to limit who I am?”

Allow yourself to feel what it would feel like to live with knowing this.

-Andy

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The Key to Sustaining Happiness: Finding Your Optimal Leverage Point

One of the things I’ve been focusing on in the last year or so is getting better at playing the drums. When you think about the general concept of playing drums it might seam pretty simple: you hit drums and cymbals with sticks.

One of the things that you discover in the process of learning the drums is that where you hold the drum sticks makes a huge difference in the results you get, in terms of how accurate your hits can be and how effortless the process is.

If you hold a drum stick too far towards the non hitting end, it’s easier to hit a drum because gravity and the weight of the stick do most of the work but it becomes hard to have enough control to be accurate. If you hold the stick too far towards the hitting end, while you can be very accurate, it takes a lot more of your own effort because gravity and the weight of the stick are not doing any of the work.

There is an exact point on a drum stick that allows you the most accuracy and the most effortlessness. You might think that this point is directly in the middle of the stick but it’s not. It’s slightly away from the middle towards the non hitting end. When you hold the stick at this point you achieve the maximum amount of accuracy along with the maximum amount of effortlessness. You are letting gravity do most of the work, but you are holding the stick at the exactly point where you can direct it exactly where you want it to go when you want it to go there. It’s the perfect balance between directing things to happen and allowing things to happen. Playing the drums then feels more like directing gravity than forcing sticks onto drums and cymbals.

I’m using this stick analogy to illustrate what I’m calling your optimal leverage point because the same concept applies to everything in life. There is an optimal leverage point for every area of your life and when you discover and engage with an area of your life from it’s optimal leverage point, you experience maximum happiness and maximum results in that area simultaneously. The process feels both effortless and exciting and the results you get are the best they could possibly be all at the same time. This is true for your work life, your relationships, your health and your life’s purpose.

So how do we find the optimal leverage point?

The two main activities that make a difference in changing your experience for the better are:

  1. Enjoying what is happening now and

  2. Improving your circumstances

When things feel less than effortless and exciting or the results we are getting are less than we want in any of the above areas of life, chances are we are not “holding” the situation from the optimal leverage point. We are either not focusing on enjoying what is happening right now enough or not focusing on improving the circumstance enough.

Your optimal leverage point is the point where you are focusing on these two activities in the optimal amount to achieve both maximum happiness and maximum results. It’s the point where your focus is slightly more on enjoying what is happening right now and the rest on improving your circumstances.

If you want, experiment with waking up tomorrow with only these two jobs to do in this order of priority:

Job #1) Enjoying each moment as much as possible while you are

Job #2) Improving your circumstances as much as possible

Remember to only do job #2 after you are doing job #1.

You might discover that by focusing only on these two things in these amounts, you are automatically holding your life at the optimal leverage point. You might discover things automatically becoming more effortless, more exciting and better.

-Andy

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Thought for the Day: What is Success?

Success is the ability to enjoy what is happening right now.

-Andy

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How You Are Already Creating the Life You Want

You are already always creating the life you want. You may have just not noticed it yet. Here’s how:

Every day you wake up (or not) and do stuff (or not) which produces the results you experience.

The results you want, you feel good about. The results you don’t want, you feel bad about.

The reason you feel good about the results you want is because this is how your life shows you that these results are the best things for you right now so you can relax and enjoy them.

The reason you feel bad about the results you don’t want is because this is how your life shows you there is something better available to you and it’s time to change what you are doing so you can relax and discover the better results that are out there for you.

This is how your life is your personal assistant that is always showing you what you can relax about and what you can begin to improve. This happens every moment of every day because your life knows you are worth having everything you want. Your life’s job is to continually steer you in the direction of what you want most and the more you pay attention to what it’s telling you, the faster and easier it becomes to experience more and more of the results you want.

Try it out and discover how you are already creating the life you want right now.

-Andy

For words and music that empower, visit: AndyHarrisonMusic.com

The One Challenge Behind all Challenges in Relating to People

When things are less than effortless when you are relating to another person in any kind of relationship, the one main reason is expectations.

Expectations that you have about how they will show up and expectations that they have about how you will show up. The more expectations that there are between two people, the more potential challenges there can be, especially if you don’t discover what’s behind them.

Behind all the expectations is one main expectation that, once discovered, gives you a tremendous tool to begin clearing the way for more clarity, space and better energy in the process of relating to the other person.

The main expectation behind all other expectations is: the expectation that the other person’s behavior will change your energy (how you feel) and/or will support a particular self image (identity) that you have or want to have.

You expect that them showing up in a particular way will make you feel better and will help you to better see yourself in the way you want. You also expect that them NOT showing up in this particular way will do the opposite for you: it will make you feel bad and see yourself in a negative way.

In holding this main expectation, you are giving the power to feel how you want and the power to define yourself over to the other person, at least to some degree (to the degree that it feels like a problem for you).

Think about an expectation you have about another person’s behavior that is not being met right now and that feels like a challenge for you (this should not be too hard!)

Now ask yourself “If this were going perfectly right now, how would I want to feel?”

Once you answer this question, you have the feeling that you are hoping to get from them showing up in this particular way (the opposite of how they are showing up now).

Now ask yourself: “If this were going perfectly and I felt they way I want, what qualities would I have as a person (for example, words like free, at peace, strong etc)?

Once you answer this question, you have the self image you are hoping to have supported by this person showing up in this particular way (again, the opposite of how they are showing up now).

The solution is to let go of the main expectation – to no longer expect their behavior to change how you can feel and to no longer expect their behavior to support a particular self image you want. Instead, you can choose to feel how you want to feel now, and choose to experience yourself as having all the qualities you want right now regardless of how they show up now and in the future.

You can still have expectations about their behavior; obviously there will be some, but you now no longer expect their behaviors to change your feelings or self image – in a positive or in a negative way.

While this may seam more challenging to do than to just try to get them to change their behavior, in doing this, you are taking the weight off of the relationship. You are no longer expecting the relationship itself to do things for you that only you can do for yourself: choose the energy you want and choose to see yourself in a particular way.

Once you have let this main expectation go, you might discover how many of your other expectations were simply smaller versions of this one trying to get the same job done. Many of your other expectations might seam meaningless or less important than they did before.

When you no longer bring this one main expectation into the process of relating to the other person, then changes to both their behavior and yours can become simply logistical and much easier to collaborate with the other person on. You no longer feel that them showing up in any particular way has power over how you can feel and how you can see yourself. It then becomes much easier to bring the energy of love, compassion, empathy, fun, lightness or any other feeling you want to the process of relating with them.

The 5 Steps to Begin Living Your Perfect Life Now

Write down your answers to each of the following questions and take each step. You will then be living your exact road map to get from where you are now to living your perfect life. You can choose one area of your life or one thing in your life to do this with, or you can choose your entire life to do this with.

Step 1: Discover what perfect is to you now.

Ask yourself : “If things were perfect, what would things look/be like?

Imagine all of it.

Step 2: Discover the energy of perfect and choose it now.

Ask yourself:

“If things were perfect, how would I want to feel now?”

Feel it in your entire body now.

Step 3: Discover the Identity of perfect and be it now.

Ask yourself: If things were perfect (and I was feeling the way I want), how would I be as a person? What are all the qualities I would have?

Begin experiencing yourself as this person now.

Step 4: Discover the system of perfect and launch it now.

Ask yourself: “If things were perfect, what would I be doing on a regular basis?

What would I no longer be doing?”

Create a plan and commit to begin doing all the things you wrote down for question one, and to stop doing all the things you wrote down for question two immediately.

Step 5: Discover what to do next to begin living your perfect life now.

Ask yourself: “If things were perfect, but then started to look like they do now, what would be the first five things, in order, that I would do to get things back to perfect?”

Begin taking these five steps now.

You might discover in taking these steps that as you are moving towards what you are currently thinking of as perfect right now, as you continue to learn and grow, often times your perfect life is even closer, easier and better than you are imagining right now!

Thought for the Day: Could These Be the 6 Most Important Things to Know if You Want to Be Even Happier?

  1. Happiness is our natural state
  2. Whenever we are not happy it is because we are getting in the way of our natural state of happiness
  3. We get in the way of our natural state of happiness by expecting results from the process of living to change our energy instead of changing our energy and making fully experiencing the process of living the result
  4. When we stop expecting results from the process of living to ever change our energy and we allow ourselves to feel the energy we want now, we instantly experience our natural state of happiness
  5. A simple way to do this is to take the following 3 steps anytime the process of living feels less than effortless and exciting:

    1) Ask: “What result am I expecting to change my energy?”

    2) Ask: “How would I want to feel if things went in the best way possible?”

    3) Let go of expecting this result to ever change our energy and allow ourselves to feel this energy now and during the entire process

  6. The more we use these steps (or something similar), the faster and more effortless experiencing   our natural state of happiness can become until we discover steps are no longer necessary.

-Andy

For words and music that empower, please visit: http://www.AndyHarrisonMusic.com

New Video: How to Create the Life You Want

Here’s a new video I just made about how to create the life you want. Thanks for watching!

Thought for the Day:

How to Make Your Job, Relationship, Health, or Living Your Purpose More Effortless and Exciting

Have you been wishing your job, your relationship, your health or being able to live more in line with your purpose felt less like a struggle and more effortless and fun?

Well if so, you are definitely not alone. All of us feel this way about some area or areas of our lives at different times in our lives.

Check out this simple formula you can use to immediately begin changing your experience of anything.

Think about the thing in your life you’d most like to experience changing right now and read the following statement:

If the process doesn’t always feel effortless and exciting, you are expecting a result (or results) from the process to change your energy. Let go of expecting any result from the process to change your energy, choose to feel the energy you want now and always no matter what is happening, and the process will always feel effortless and exciting.

For example, if going to work isn’t fun, you are trying to get some result from going to work (maybe a paycheck, your title etc) to make you happier. If you choose instead to let go of expecting the result of going to work (a paycheck, your title etc) to ever make you feel happier, and you instead choose to feel happier now no matter what happens at work, then the process will begin to always feel effortless and fun.

From this perspective, all choices available to you become more obvious and you can see that there are only ever better or worse choices, none of which you need in order to feel how you want now and always.

Thanks for choosing to be you!

-Andy

Thought for the Day:

If we’re lucky, we reach a time when we realize the only struggle we have ever experienced in our lives has been a struggle between an imaginary idea of ourselves and who we really are beyond that, and that the only thing necessary to end the struggle is to stop struggling.

-Andy

Breakthrough to BLISS with These 5 Questions

These five questions guide your attention to begin changing your experience to greater happiness with anything you choose on five levels of happiness. Think of something you would like to feel happier about today, ask yourself these five questions and notice how your feelings and thoughts begin changing:

  1. What am I no longer expecting to be impossible and what am I noticing is possible now instead?

  2. How am I no longer expecting to feel because of this and how can I choose to feel now instead?

  3. Who am I no longer expecting to have to be because of this and how can I be now instead?

  4. What am I no longer expecting to have to do because of this and what can I do now instead?

  5. How am I no longer expecting things to be because of this and how are things changing now instead?

Thanks for choosing to be you!

-Andy

How to Instantly Shift from Feeling Unhappy to Happy with Anything

What if shifting from feeling unhappy about something to feeling happy about it took only a few seconds?

What if once you learned how to do it, you could apply it to anything in your life you wanted to?

What in your day today would you make this shift with now?

Picture a volume knob in front of you easily within your reach.

Now imagine there being two positions on the volume knob, one to the far left and one to the far right.

Now picture the words “EXPECT WHAT ISN’T” written next to the far left position.

Now picture the words “DISCOVER WHAT IS” written next to the far right position.

This volume knob represents the two activities that we choose to bring to any moment. Whatever is happening, we can either expect something that isn’t there to be there or we are discover what actually is there, or, in most cases, we have a certain percentage of each of these happening at the same time.

Our level of happiness with anything is a direct result of how far to the left or how far to the right this volume knob is set with it any particular moment.

The farther to the left your volume knob is with something, the less happy you will be with it. The farther to the right it is, the more happy you will be with it.

In other words, with anything in your life, the more you are expecting what isn’t there to be there, the less happy you will be with it, and on the flip side, the more you are simply discovering what is there with no expectations, the happier you will be with it.

Try it out right now. Think of something you feel really happy about in your life right now. As you think about that thing, where would you say your volume knob is? Is it more towards expect what isn’t (are you expecting something to be there that isn’t there) or is it more towards discover what is (are you mostly just finding our what is there)?

Now think of something you feel less than happy about in your life. Where is your volume knob with this? Now as you think about this, imagine yourself turning the volume knob to the far right position – making the choice to no longer expect what isn’t there and instead choosing to simply discover more about what is there. How do you feel about this now?

What might happen if you reminded yourself about this volume knob the next time you catch yourself feeling less than happy with something and you experimented with turning it from one position to another?

-Andy

For words and music that empower, visit: http://www.AndyHarrisonMusic.com

Thought for the Day:

What if you are already living your perfect life right now?

What if you already have the perfect relationships, the perfect work situation, perfect health and the perfect purpose?

What if any time it doesn’t feel perfect it’s simply because you have been getting in the way of it coming out and being what it naturally wants to be?

What if all joy is simply the discovery process itself and not in any particular result?

For any part of your life, what if your job is to simply let it come out and be what it already wants to be now?

What if you simply stopped trying to predict what it might turn into, simply stopped trying to make it into something other than what it already is now, and simply stopped expecting any of it to make you happy ever and just let it come out and discover what it is being right now? What if this allowed you to notice how perfect it is right now?

What if you find you already are completely happy when you are focused on discovering what is happening now and that is always more than enough?

What if you living your perfect life is simply you discovering what your life already wants to be now, which is exactly how it is now?

-Andy

How to Be Even Happier in 2018!

Here are my 5 best ideas to date on how to be even happier in 2018!

Thought for the Day:

When you stop expecting stuff to make you happy you take away it’s power to make you unhappy.

-Andy

Thought for the Day: Happiness is Balancing These 2 Simple Skills

Happiness is Balancing These 2 Simple Skills:

1) Relaxing into the known and

2) Exploring the unknown

Life is the process of interacting with two seemingly apposing things:

The the known and the unknown.

We find the feeling of safety in the known and we find the feeling of freedom in the unknown.

We could say that happiness with something is feeling enough safety and enough freedom at the same time; a perfect balance between the two.

When we focus too much on the known with something though, we can experience boredom and when we focus too much on the unknown we can experience overwhelm or fear.

So we could say happiness is a result of balancing how much we focus on the known and the unknown.

We can think of happiness as balancing how much we use these two skills:

  1. Relaxing into the known and

  2. Exploring the unknown

If we feel a lack of safety with something, we can simply relax into what we know about it more and this will bring us more into balance; it will result in us feeling happier about it.

If we feel a lack of freedom with something, we can simply explore what we don’t yet know about it more, and this will result in us feeling happier about it.

What’s happening today in your life that you could bring more into balance now by either:

  1. Relaxing into the known more or

  2. Exploring the unknown more?

-Andy

How to Thrive Even More in Relating to People

As all of us grow up, we all develop an less than complete point of view about ourselves and other people that can sometimes create challenges when relating to others. This is part of the traditional way our brains develop, and we can sometimes feel trapped in no win situations when it comes to dealing with others.

The good news is that once we recognize it, we can supercharge our experience of relating to all other people for the better forever.

We tend to either carry one or both of the following assumptions that often times makes it less than easy to relate to other people.

  1. we assume we can’t make ourselves important without hurting others in some way or
  2. we assume we can’t make others important without hurting or compromising ourselves in some way

Do either or both of these sound familiar to you?

Both these assumptions are based on a larger assumption about life itself:

    1. There isn’t enough for both us and others to always be equally important.

Carrying around these assumptions can lead us to behave with others in a way that guarantees conflict.

We tend to either cave into other’s wishes only to feel regret and anger later or we disregard others wishes to try to get more of what we want only to experience tension and distance with them later.

When we begin to see through these assumptions and break the patterns of reacting to them, we can begin to have a completely different experience of relating to others. Our experience can become one of knowing:

There is always enough for everyone to be equally important. Life is the ongoing adventure of discovering how.

-Andy

What’s Wrong with the World and What You Can Do About it: 3 Simple Steps

Step 1: Discover the problem.

If our assumptions are our main tools in creating what we experience, then all human problems could be a result of people assuming something less than these three things:

  1. I am always important

  1. All others are always important too

  2. There is always enough for everyone

Think about any man made problem, current or past, and notice how the lack of one or several of these assumptions most likely went into creating the problem.

Step 2: Discover what you may be assuming instead of the three assumptions in Step 1.

Unless you are experiencing nothing but effortless excitement in every moment, chances are you may be hanging onto assumptions that are actively creating events and circumstances that are less than what you want. If we teach people how to treat us and we tell life what’s possible for us or not, then whatever we are assuming about ourselves, other people and life itself has a huge effect on what happens in our lives. The three main assumptions that act as the main control knobs on your experience are one about you, one about others, and one about life itself. Whatever they are, your brain is filling in the blank to these three statements:

I am always _________.

Other people always are or do_____________.”

Life/ the world/ or there is always __________.”

Once you discover your three assumptions you can find out how they might be different than the three listed in step 1.

Step 3: Free yourself and do what works better

Once you discover your three assumptions that may be creating a world that is less than what you want, you get the choice whether you want to keep them or let them go and experiment with what might work better instead.

Imagine how you might feel different if you always knew in every situation that you are always important. Imagine how it might feel different to deal with others if you always experienced other people with the knowing that they are always important too no matter who they were. Imagine how it might feel different to begin looking for solutions to challenges with the knowing that there is always enough for everyone no matter how bleak the current situation might seem. How could this change your experience?

For a more detailed way to discover your three assumptions, you can check out this post: http://www.andyharrisonmusic.com/how-to-let-nothing-stop-you-discover-the-true-indestructible-you/

-Andy

Thought for the Day: One Way to Respond to the Culture Divide

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Thought for the Day: Is this as Good as it Gets? How to Know for Sure

We can easily tell when something isn’t working well, but how do you know when something is working at it’s very best? How do you know if things could be better with your health, in doing something you love to do, in a relationship or with your work situation?

Here’s a simple test to find out. Think about the thing you are questioning as you read this next statement:

When something is working at it’s most optimal, you feel equally safe and equally free simultaneously.

If that’s not the case, chances are it could be better.

Thanks for reading!

-Andy

Thought for the Day: What Does Perfect Feel Like?

 What does perfect feel like?

Now bring that feeling to everything that happens today allowing all the stuff that happens to organize itself within that energy and notice how you are changing now.

-Andy

What is Confidence?

Labeling is attaching meaning to things.

Feeling confidence about something is feeling certainty about the label(s) you have accepted for it.

Our brains are labeling machines and seek to find the most efficient route to you feeling certainty.

Because of this, it’s often times easy to accept labels for things that are quickly and easily available but that may not be accurate.

Doing this over time can create less confidence if we discover the labels we have accepted weren’t accurate.

True life long confidence is not confidence in the labels we have chosen or will choose. True life long confidence is feeling certain about our willingness to continue to do what it takes to improve our ability to make more and more accurate choices for the labels we accept for things from now on.

No matter how inaccurate the easily available labeling choices may seem, we can always feel confident in our willingness to stay curious and keep learning.

-Andy

New Video: How to Solve All the Problems in Your Life in 60 Seconds

Here’s a new 60 second video about solving all the problems in your life. I’m probably taking the 60 second idea too far on this one, but that’s how I tend to roll when exploring limits. Let me know what you think. Thanks for watching!

-Andy

New Video: How to Create Any Result in Your Life 60 Seconds

Here’s a new video showing how to use the BLISS formula to create any result you want in your life. Thanks for checking this out!

-Andy

 

New Video: How to Be Happy Forever in 60 Seconds

Here’s a new video ” How to Be Happy Forever in 60 Seconds”. It outlines a very simple strategy for greater happiness that I created about a month ago that has been dramatically changing my experience: Check it out if you want and let me know what you think!

-Andy

How to Make Stuff Happen: The 5 Steps to Create Any Result You Want in Your Life

Through doing research for my next book on happiness, I discovered that happiness can be seen as existing on 5 different levels. To explain this idea, I developed the BLISS formula as a simple way of understanding the 5 levels.

I’ve continued to use the BLISS formula in pretty much all areas of my life and it continues to amaze me how practical it can be and how many different things you can apply it to.

Today I’m excited to share how you can use the BLISS formula as a template to create any result you want in your life.

As you read this version of the 5 Step BLISS formula, think of a result that you’d like to have happen in your life. It can be any kind of result, big or small, in any area of your life. Imagine how you might apply each step to allowing and creating the result you are thinking about.

Step 1: Believe it’s possible

In order for you to guarantee a result happening in your life, you have to believe it’s possible. Otherwise you will not have access to the right energy and information required to do your part in it happening. If you don’t completely believe it’s possible for you yet, simply stay open to the possibility that it might be and continue to the next step knowing that once you fully believe it’s possible for you, it becomes possible for you.

Step 2: Learn the formula

Behind you getting any consistent result in your life is a formula that can be measured. While life is full of both mystery and math, the math behind consistent results can be discovered. In this step you are simply eliminating all the choices except for the ones that work the absolute best to create the result you want. We now live in a world full of information so this step is easier than ever before.

Step 3: Identify yourself as the one in charge of making sure it happens

Once you know the formula, getting the result you want is simply a matter of making sure enough correct repetitions happen. This is true in every area of life. In this step, you want to see yourself as the one who is in charge of making sure enough correct repetitions of your formula happen. Without this step, it can be easy to try to give this responsibility to someone or something else. Even when you believe something is possible and know the formula for making it happen, without being the one in charge of making sure enough repetitions happen, you are leaving it up to chance. Once you do take on that responsibility though, you are 3/5ths of the way to guaranteeing that it will happen!

Step 4: Systematize it

The easiest way to make sure enough correct repetitions of your formula happen is to create a system that guarantees that they happen. A system is simply a sequence of steps and a schedule that create a consistent result. You have a system for lot’s of things in your life already that you use everyday to get the results you have now. In this step you are simply making a list of steps and a schedule that will guarantee that enough correct repetitions of your formula happen.

Step 5: See the benefit in everything that happens

As you continue to run your system, you can allow everything that happens to refine both your result and how it can happen. As you keep going, you might discover an even more exciting result than the one you initially wanted to create and/or you might discover more effortless ways to allow it to happen. No matter what happens over time, when you look for it, you can find a benefit that will help you create more exciting results with less effort.

Thanks for reading!

-Andy

For words and music that empower, visit: http://www.AndyHarrisonMusic.com

Why are We Angry with Our Parents? Why are Our Kids Angry with Us?

When we are very young, we choose our own limitations based on the responses we get from our parents. We then live with the pain of these choices, overlooking the fact that we made a choice. We assume our pain was and is being generated by our parent(s) and we feel anger towards them because of this assumption.

We are really angry at ourselves for remaining trapped in our own limiting ideas of who we have been assuming we have to be.

When we take the chance to step back and see the assumptions that we have chosen, we are at the same times, giving ourselves the chance to re decide if we want to hold onto them or not. We are then giving ourselves the chance to be and feel more of how we want now and from then on.

For a simple 5 step process to discover and let go of your limiting assumptions, you can check out this post: http://www.andyharrisonmusic.com/how-to-let-nothing-stop-you-discover-the-true-indestructible-you/

Thanks for reading!

-Andy

For Words and Music that Empower, visit: http://www.AndyHarrisonMusic.com

How to Be Happy with Stuff No Matter What Happens

Make sure your output is always greater than your input.

In other words, choose to be in charge of making sure you are always creating more value for others than you are expecting to get from others.

-Andy

Thought for the Day

There is no “there”, there is only ever just improving “here”.

How to Get Happiness: Stop Trying to Get Happiness and Notice You Are It

When we are learning to talk, our brains begin to form two distinctly separate neural networks which end up determining the quality of the rest of our entire lives. It’s as if our brain forms two separate boxes where it puts everything we experience from then on and what is able to be put in those boxes ends up meaning the difference between a life of happiness or horror, a life of success of failure, a life of confidence or unworthiness. Unless we learn about these two boxes and choose to begin living beyond them, it is easy to feel like you are living less of a life than you could.

I call these two boxes the I Box and the Other Box because those are the two main ideas that get put in the two boxes. Your brain puts everything it decides “you” are into the I Box and it puts everything else into the Other Box. Living with these two boxes creates the feeling that there is always something missing or not quite enough while simultaneously a strong desire to keep yourself safe.

Below is a list of steps outlining the basic process we all tend to live through. Check these out and if you want a step by step way to begin living beyond your two boxes now, you can check out this post here:

http://www.andyharrisonmusic.com/how-to-let-nothing-stop-you-discover-the-true-indestructible-you

1)The 3 I box assumptions are formed, These include a belief about yourself, a belief about other people, and a belief about the world.

  1. A) I am not ___________

    B) People are not___________

    C) There is not______________

2) Your I Box feels something is missing ( because of the 3 I Box assumptions that assume you, people and the world are less than they are) and simultaneously feels the need to keep itself safe (which means maintaining it’s 3 I Box assumptions).

3) Your I Box actively tries to get what it feels is missing (to know what it would feel like without the limitations of the 3 I Box assumptions) while at the same time keeping itself safe (which means maintaining the 3 I Box assumptions). So the I Box is in a no-win situation, because keeping itself safe includes maintaining it’s 3 I Box assumptions and getting what it feels is missing can only truly happen through giving them up. Maintaining the 3 I Box assumptions keeps the same types of situations showing up in your life over and over because we naturally create circumstances that reflect our strongest assumptions. It can also feel like we are living in a constant state of dis-ease, conflict or a lack of peace because we feel pulled in two opposite directions simultaneously and nothing seams to ever fix it for long.

4) The I Box chooses compromise situations in an attempt to both keep itself safe (maintain it’s 3 I Box assumptions) and get what it feels is missing (to feel the opposite of it’s 3 I Box assumptions).

This usually happens in any of the following ways:

A) The I Box builds itself up so it feels more powerful than the “other” that it is interacting with by attaching new ideas about itself to the 3 I Box assumptions (awards, positions, titles, stories: “I am famous”)

B) Reducing “other” so that it feels less powerful than the I Box

C) Reducing the idea of itself to appear less powerful to “other” (“I am disabled”) in order to extract what it feels is missing from “other’ through pity or obligation

D) It builds up “other” to appear more powerful than the I Box for the same reasons as C above

5) The only real way for the I Box to get what it feels is missing is to give up it’s 3 I Box assumptions and experience itself (or more accurately “you” experience “you” beyond the I Box) as naturally the opposite of the 3 I Box assumptions. Your I Box IS the 3 I Box assumptions plus any other ideas you have built on top of them. Discovering and letting the assumptions go IS experiencing yourself beyond your ego.

Thanks for reading!

-Andy

A Natural Cure for Fear and Anxiety

Our brain has divided our experience into two main categories: 1) it’s idea of “me” (what it has decided we are), and 2) it’s idea of “other” (what it has decided everything else is).

At the most basic level, you can think of your brain’s idea of “me” as your body, and your brain’s idea of “other” as everything outside your body.

Our brain is constantly trying to protect it’s idea of “me” from it’s idea of “other”. It is simply trying to keep what it has decided you are safe.

Anytime it’s idea of “other” appears to be more powerful or bigger than it’s idea of “me”, our brain will put more attention on “me” and less attention on “other” and we sometimes feel fear or anxiety.

A cure for fear or anxiety could be to actually put more attention on your brain’s idea of “other” in these situations. Simply putting more attention on the things outside your body can instantly reduce or eliminate fear and anxiety.

Try it out now if you want and discover how your feelings can shift instantly. Just for a second, put more of your attention on what’s outside your body and notice how you feel differently.

Could developing greater skill at doing this more easily, over time, cure fear and anxiety? What do you think?

-Andy

The 3rd Option

When you choose to be in charge of the improving of every part of your experience, then everything that happens benefits you.

What ever happens will fall into one of the following three categories. It will be:

  1. Exactly what you had intended

  2. Better than what you had intended or

  3. A benefit for you to discover a greater opportunity. This is the 3rd option.

What most people experience as a problem, a challenge or an annoying situation can become for you the 3rd option, leading you to more ongoing confidence, happiness and success.

When you know the 3rd option is always there and you stay open to discovering it, your experience can improve in ways you had not imagined.

The 3rd option. Look for it today in an experience near you!

-Andy

For words and music that empower, please visit: http//www.AndyHarrisonMusic.com

Thought for the Day:

Have you noticed?

You are the space in which everything is allowed to happen.

What you decide you are in charge of making sure happens, happens; often times in a completely different way than you thought it would, but it does happen.

-Andy

How to Let Nothing Stop You: Discover the True Indestructible You.

When certain events or people are able to consistently bother us, get to us, or slow us down, it’s usually due to a few thought and feeling patterns we picked up when we were young. All of us develop our own versions of these few patterns and discovering the specifics of what yours have been, is a gigantic leap towards discovering the true indestructible you that can more easily meet and transform any challenge.

Discovering the true indestructible you is mostly about finding out who you are not: finding the fake ideas about who you are that you somehow bought into over the years.

Once you discover who you are not and experiment with not trying to be that all the time, then who you really are can more easily show up in your experience. Assigning words to who you really are, or in other words, filling in the blank to the question: “Who I am is __________”, is the beginning of creating more ideas about who you are that can easily take your attention away from simply staying open to experience it. So even though I am using the term “The True Indestructible You”, I encourage you to resist giving words to who you really are before simply experiencing it.

Simply 1) discovering who you are not, 2) not trying to always be it anymore and, 3) staying open to what happens next, can help you experience more of what we could call “who you really are” beyond the fake ideas that have been in the way.

Here is a simple, six step process I recently developed to help us take step 1 and discover who we are not.

Step 1) Think of the first person in your life that played the role of the main other person in your life. This is usually your Mom or Dad or another person who’s role was to take care of you most of the time when you were a baby and small child. With this person in mind, answer the following three questions:

A) Who did I have to be in order to survive with this person?

B) Who did I have to be in order to get this person’s attention?

C) Who did I have to be to get this person’s love?

Step 2) Answer this question with that person in mind:

What were the steps I had to take to try to be all this? List out the first three to five steps in order:

Step 3) Answer this question:

What did I decide was probably true about myself, other people and the world because of trying to be this? List the top three to five things.

Step 4) Answer this question by filling in the blank:

What have I been most afraid of because if this experience? Please fill in the blank to the following phrase:

The thing I have been most afraid of is being trapped in a situation where ____________________.”

Step 5) Answer this question, allowing yourself to feel the feelings as much as possible:

If anything were possible, how would I rather feel instead of this?

Step 6) Run the “Prison Break Swish Pattern” to free your attention from your old patterns. This is a version of an NLP pattern called the swish pattern which I’ve updated to apply to these limiting thought and feeling patterns.

A) Close your eyes and picture your main other person out in front of you

B) Now picture yourself in front of them

C) Now picture your thought feeling patterns that you discovered through answering the questions above surrounding both you and the other person. Imagine this is any way that this makes sense to you. There is no right or wrong way to do this.

D) Now picture the most powerful energy you can imagine bursting through the other person, bursting through you and then bursting through the thought and emotion patterns shattering them into oblivion. As you do this, allow yourself to feel all the feelings you described in step 6 as much as possible. Run this nine more times.

How does this feel? Did it radically shift your experience in a positive way? If so, you can experiment with doing step six a few more times. Each time you do this, you are reversing your old limiting patterns and creating new pathways for your attention to come back to notice who you really are now.

-Andy

How to Instantly Annihilate Stress

Pretend for a second that you have two volume knobs that adjust your level of stress.

One volume knob is marked “Expectations”. This knob turns up or down the amount of expectations you bring to the present moment. It adjusts how much or how little you are expecting things to be a certain way each moment.

The second volume knob is marked “Appreciation”. This knob turns up or down the amount of appreciation you bring to the present moment. It adjusts how much or how little you are appreciating what is happening right now each moment.

Now pretend you are in a situation where you notice you feel more stress than you would like. Take a second to really put yourself there.

Now imagine you turn down your Expectation volume knob all the way to zero, turning off any and all expectations about what you thought had to happen right now (it only has to be just for the moment).

Now imagine you turn up your Appreciation volume knob all the way to ten, turning up your feelings of appreciation and bringing it to what IS happening right now (it only has to be just for the moment).

Notice how it feels. Notice what you are focusing on now that is different than in the moments before.

Each time you adjust these two volume knobs, you are adjusting your relationship between what you think of as yourself and what you think of as other. You can instantly annihilate or greatly reduce stress in any moment and you are, at the same time, improving your ability to eliminate stress in your life in a more permanent way.

-Andy

Thought for the Day:

Stay open – you are the doorway through which all you want most is coming into the world.

-Andy

 

Thought for the Day:

You happen to stuff – stuff doesn’t happen to you.

Thought for the Day

Thought for the Day:

Your Happiness Volume Knobs

How to Manifest Wealth Decoded

If money is simply stored energy, then energy is true wealth.

Your attention is your power to direct and thus invest energy (or true wealth).

The higher quality your attention is, the greater the investment is and the higher the returns can be.

Appreciation is a higher quality of attention than non appreciation. When you “appreciate” something, you are investing a high quality of attention in it. When someone “appreciates” you, you feel the difference in their investment and you feel more valuable. It works the same when you “appreciate” someone or something else.

The more high quality attention or “appreciation” you are directing (or investing) right now in the present moment, the higher your returns can be in the future.

In other words, the more you are “paying” attention to and appreciating what’s happening right now in your life, the better your future is becoming right now.

It’s important to know that it’s not that important what particular stuff you are investing in, it’s simply important that you continue to invest. All stuff is simply energy showing up in different forms. Energy can take on any form and the forms change over time in relation to how much and what quality level your investing is. You might invest for a long time in a particular thing and never see a return. Then you might get a huge return from some other thing without seemingly having invested anything. This is because every “thing” is connected by the one energy that everything is made of (true wealth) and that one energy is what you are investing in, not in any one particular thing.

Knowing this, our best investment strategy is to “appreciate” everyone and everything that we experience as much as possible and to not expect a return from any one particular person or thing, remembering the more we appreciate, the wealthier we are.

But what about taking action? Take the actions that naturally come from appreciating someone, something or some opportunity and you’ll always know what to do and how much.

We are all made of wealth (attention and energy). Invest wisely and you will “appreciate” your future!

-Andy

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The 3 Steps to Creating What You Want Most

So much of what we think we want, often times comes from a desire to feel less limited. We want stuff to change in order to prove that we are not limited in a particular way.

When we assume we are limited, we also assume that certain things are not possible (at least not for us right now). So out life becomes separated and feels like it’s us against everything else where we have to struggle to make things change.

When we are already experiencing ourselves as unlimited, we also experience a life where everything feels possible. From this experience, nothing feels like it has to change because we have nothing to prove (to ourselves or anyone else). Changing things is then simply fun experimentation and creation and it happens in a much easier and more effortless way.

If we were to break the process of creating what we want most in life into steps, it might look like this:

1) Get the feeling first: Feel full of life – experience yourself as unlimited with the sense of  knowing that anything is possible.

2) Notice the most exciting inspired idea that comes to you

3) Take the most exciting next step towards creating it and repeat steps 1 – 3.

-Andy

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Thought for the Day: Our Biggest Challenge in Life is…

Our biggest challenge in life is trying to live as if life should have no challenges.

When we let go of that assumption, we have conquered our biggest challenge.

-Andy

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Your 3 Built in Tools for Change

Pick something you want to change about your experience. It could be something big or small. After reading this post, if your excited about it, try out your three tools and see if you notice having more influence on stuff changing in your life.

We are all born with three tools that allow us to change our experience. Learning how to use these three tools in the most effective ways is the key to our life continuing to improve.

The three tools are:

  1. Where we focus our attention

  2. The meaning we give to stuff

  3. The actions we take

Any other choice we have in making changes to our lives is a subset of one or more of these three tools.

Where we choose to focus our attention is what determines what information we have access to.

The meaning we give to stuff are the definitions we put on things, and most importantly, how we define our relationship to everything we experience.

The actions we take are simply what we do with our body, which includes what and how we communicate.

We have two main choices in using each of these three tools. One choice allows us to improve our experience and the other does not. Becoming clear on what these two choices are for each tool is essential to us continuing to allow the changes we want most to happen and to avoid living in patterns of frustration and stagnation.

The two choices we have for tool #1, about where we focus our attention are:

Choice 1) We can focus on the stuff: We can choose to focus on the matter; the people, the places, the   things, the events, the circumstances and our thoughts about these or

Choice 2) We can focus on the space in which everything is: We can choose to notice the space in which all the stuff is happening right now. In art they call this negative space – it’s the area in a piece of art in which the objects in a picture or painting exists. Great artists learn that the negative space often times is more important to the beauty of a piece than the objects themselves. When you focus on the space you are simply putting more of your attention on all the space in between and within all the people, places, things, events, circumstances and our thoughts about these.

The two choices for tool #2, the meaning we give to stuff are:

Choice 1) We can assume that we are not in charge of our experience improving or

Choice 2) We can assume we are in charge of our experience improving

The two choices for tool #3, the actions we take, are:

Choice 1) To NOT act on our experience improving or

Choice 2) To act on our experience improving

The three choices that allow us the most influence to change our experience are:

      1. Focus on the space in which everything is.

        Doing this allows us to access all the information, new ideas and energy of what else is possible. The space in which everything is is where every creative idea exists. All that has yet to be is showing up in the space in which everything that is here now is. We can gain access to all these choices sooner by focusing more on the space. You might experience it as getting the right idea at just the right time, or it might feel like an “ah ha” moment, or you might see an image flash in your mind about what something could look like. All the best improvements are already in the space in which everything is now.

      1. Assume you are in charge of your experience improving.

        Every teacher knows that the main key to helping someone learn how to do something new, is to make sure they believe they can. Without assuming that we can do something, it is almost impossible to do it, or to keep doing it. Knowing that our brain will be assuming something, assuming we are in charge of our experience improving actually makes it true and it gives us the power to do it.

      2. Act on your experience improving.

        This is a no brainer right? We can’t expect things to improve in the ways we want by not doing anything towards them changing. We all know this, but it’s easy to forget, especially if we don’t make the two other choice above.

I’d love to hear how this effects your experience.

Thanks for reading!

-Andy

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Thought for the Day: The Secret to Living is…

The secret to living is to stay curious about the secret to living.

-Andy

 

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New Transformational Rock Song: Story of the World

Here’s a new Transformational Rock song called “Story of the World”:

Thanks for listening!

-Andy

There is me and there is you

We think there’s not enough what do we do?

There is us and there is them

Same old problem again and again

Chorus

Story of the world

Story of the world

Story of the world

But is it changing as it twirls

 

There is wrong and there is right

We disagree and so we fight

In the name of some higher good

We make it worse never understood

 

Story of the world

Story of the world

Story of the world

But is it changing as it twirls

 

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The 10 Minute Happiness Challenge

In this post I’d like to offer you a challenge. I’d like to challenge you to spend 10 minutes today either improving your ability to be happier for the rest of your life, or proving me wrong.

If I told you there was a simple exercise that could increase your ability to feel more happiness for the rest of your life and that it only takes 10 minutes, you would probably either be excited to try it and see if it works, or you would think I was full of it.

So I’m offering you a challenge to find out. If you accept the challenge, after the 10 minute exercise you will either feel happier, or you will feel right about me being full of it. In either case, you win!

Here is the basic idea:

Being happy or unhappy is completely 100% a decision that we make. This decision is sometimes made unconsciously and that’s why it can sometimes appear that things outside of our control are causing us to be happy or unhappy.

Happiness or unhappiness is the result of three concepts being strung together inside our brains:

A) The concept of “I” (what your brain thinks you are)

B) The concept of “enough” and

C) The concept of “now”

The decision to be happy or not is the decision to assume that either:

A) “I am enough right now” or

B) “I am not enough right now”

Happiness is the result of these three concepts being strung together like this:

I” = “enough” + “now” or in other words: “I am enough right now”

Unhappiness is the result of these three concepts being strung together like this:

I” does not equal “enough” + “now” or in other words: “I am not enough right now”

Being happy or not is 100% caused by this decision. Whichever decision you make in any moment, the feeling of happiness or unhappiness follows.

Whenever you are unhappy, you are assuming “I am not enough right now” and whenever you are happy, you are assuming “I am enough right now”.

Try to find one example from your entire life that proves this wrong. I bet you can’t.

This explains how we can be happy in one area of our lives and feel unhappy in another area at the same time. We are making the assumption that we are enough right now in the one area of our lives and we are making the assumption that we are not enough right now in the other area.

This also explains how we can feel happy during one period in our life with something and then become unhappy with that same thing later on. As time goes on and things change, we begin assuming we are no longer enough when it comes to relating to that thing,  person or situation.

So knowing this, becoming more happy in life is simply a matter of deciding that “I am enough right now” more often.

So how do I do that? You might ask. I’m happy you asked!

Whenever you catch yourself feeling unhappy, saying the following phrase to yourself can help your brain make the decision to change the assumption it is making from “I am not enough right now” to “I am enough right now”.

The phrase is: “Who am I no longer expecting to be because of this, and how am I choosing to be now instead?”

The challenge for us when we are unhappy is remembering to do something different than we are used to doing when we feel that way. So in order to have this be easy, we can make remembering this phrase into a lifelong habit so that it will be on the tip of our brain, ready to use when we want it. To make this phrase into a habit, we can simply say it to ourselves 100 times.

Here are the steps to the 10 minute happiness challenge:

Step 1: Create a grid with 10 cells in it, like 10 check boxes in a row

Step 2: Say the phrase: “Who am I no longer expecting to be because of this, and how am I choosing to be now instead?” to yourself 10 times in row.

Step 3: Put an X in one of the 10 cells

Step: 4 Repeat steps one, two and three until you have 10 X’s filled in

This exercise should take 10 minutes or less.

After doing this, notice how you are feeling. Even if you were feeling pretty happy before the exercise, see if you notice feeling even happier now. If you were feeling less than happy, see if you notice it being almost impossible to feel that now. If you feel no change at all after getting your 100 repetitions in of this phrase, see if it pops in your head the next time you are faced with a challenge and see if it provides you with and instant way to choose more happiness in that moment. If this exercise has absolutely no effect on your levels of happiness, then you have proven me wrong!

Whatever your results are, please let me know!

Thanks for listening and thanks for choosing to be you!

-Andy

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Thought(s) for the Day: What are the Most Important Things?

Here are some thoughts about the most important things. What are your ideas on this?

1) What’s the most important thing in life?

To experience more love and happiness and less pain and suffering.

Whether we are good at it or not, this is the motivation behind everything we do isn’t it?

2) What’s the most important thing about us experiencing more love and happiness?

Realizing that us experiencing love and happiness is a choice and not just something that happens to us.

3) What’s the most important thing about us realizing that us experiencing love and happiness is a choice?

Us taking on the role of being the one in charge or our experience: of how we feel and of our circumstances improving, and not trying to put other people or outside circumstances in charge of our experience.

4) What’s the most important thing about taking on the role of being the one in charge of our experience?

Us creating and improving systems that produce the results we are most excited about in the most effortless ways we know of, and not expecting the systems created by other people to consistently produce these results for us.

5) What’s the most important thing about us creating and improving systems that produce the results we are most excited about?

Finding the benefit in everything that happens that allows us to A) produce more exciting results in more effortless ways, or B) be more in charge of our experience or C) choose more love and happiness , and not staying focused on how what has happened might be a limitation.

-Andy

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New Song “Can’t Find Love (You Gotta Be It)” Acoustic Version

Here’s an acoustic  version of the new song ” Can’t Find Love (You Gotta Be It)”:

Every day and every night it’s knocking at your door

You shut your ears and close your eyes continue to ignore

You walk into the world in search of all that you don’t have

You hope and pray struggle and wait and never can feel glad

Chorus

Cause you can’t find love – you gotta be it

You don’t reach success – inside yourself you see it

You won’t get rich – you’ll feel your worth and free it

You can’t find love – you gotta be it

 

Every year and every fear and every bitter end

You tell yourself it’ll come to you just a question of when

You walk into the world with only emptiness to bring

Wondering why nothing works to soothe your suffering

Chorus

Cause you can’t find love – you gotta be it

You don’t reach success – inside yourself you see it

You won’t get rich – you’ll feel your worth and free it

You can’t find love – you gotta be it

Every day and every night it’s knocking at your door

The One Crucial Decision That Can Make or Break Your Happiness

At some point in our lives, we all have to make one crucial decision: Are we going to assume that we are in charge of how we feel and of our lives improving or not?

Making this decision means the difference between being open to the possibility that what you want most can happen or always having doubt that it ever could.

Making this decision means the difference between being able to live with the feelings of safety, freedom and excitement whenever you want to or accepting a life where you have feelings of sadness, fear or apathy when you don’t want to.

Making this decision means the difference between creating a life that you are excited about everyday or accepting a life with more things you don’t want everyday.

Making this decision means the difference between having the ability to find a benefit in everything that happens or experiencing a burden in everything that happens.

Making this one crucial decision can literally mean the difference between being happy or not for the rest of our lives.

-Andy

New Transformational Rock Song “Limitless Days”

Here’s an acoustic version of a new Transformational Rock song called “Limitless Days”:

Gone are the days
We used to live in fear
Hoping for change to come
Now it’s become so clear

Every hour
Regardless of what the news
We let the sun shine on
We take the chance to choose

These are the limitless days
These are the limitless Days
With no expectations
What we love most we create
Limitless days

Behind us the times
We fought with a life so rough
Trying to prove ourselves
Now we just feel enough

Every thought
Each ounce of our energy
We let the sun shine on
We build the greatest of things

These are the limitless days
These are the limitless Days
With no expectations
We find the most effortless ways
Limitless days

Thanks for listening!

-Andy

How to Know if You are Living in love or Living in Fear

Every day we make the choice to live in love or to live in fear.

When we choose to live in love fully, we bring unconditional love to every part of our life.

We don’t care about the outcome.

When we choose to live in love fully, this choice automatically eliminates most of the possible things we could focus on, leaving only three things that we have to focus on:

  1. Discovering, creating and allowing the results we are most excited about
  2. Discovering the most effortless ways for it to happen
  3. Doing it all with NO expectations of any outcome

When we live in love fully, we don’t need a particular outcome because we feel enough during the entire process. The act of focusing on the above three things every day IS the result we discover to be the most exciting.

When we choose to live in fear, that choice automatically creates all the other choices we could focus on:

  1. Living with results that are less than the most exciting ones
  2. Doing things in less than the most effortless ways
  3. Doing things with expectations

When we choose to live in fear, instead of love, we are ultimately only afraid of finding out WE are not enough. When we choose to not love our life unconditionally and we focus on results that are less than the most exciting ones to us, on doing things in less than the most effortless ways, and we do things with expectations, we are ultimately afraid that if we gave our all, it might still not be enough. We are afraid this might prove that We are not enough.

Every day we make the choice to live in love or to live in fear.

When we choose to live in love fully, we bring unconditional love to every part of our life.

We don’t care about the outcome because we discover that living in love fully is the most exciting result.

-Andy

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Thought for the Day: The Biggest Part of Any Challenge is…

The biggest part of any challenge is getting beyond your own expectations about it.

-Andy

How to Change Your Brain for Life Long Happiness

How to Change Your Brain for Life Long Happiness
 
What do we want in life?
 
More money, better relationships, love, better health, to find and live a life that is meaningful, to know our true purpose, to have our time here make a real difference in making the world better?
 
If you ask ten people this question, you would, of course, probably get ten different answers, but what do they all have in common?
 
All the things that people might list in answering this question, at least according to the person listing them, seam like they might lead to the experience of what I’m calling “enoughness”.
 
Enoughness is the feeling that we are enough and that we have enough.
 
This is what we all want: to feel that we are enough and that we have enough.
 
We also want to avoid feeling the opposite.
 
If you think about it, almost every action we take is, in our own minds, an attempt for us to experience more “enoughness” or for us to avoid experiencing “not enoughness.”
 
So what makes the difference in how much enoughness we experience in life? Is it our life circumstances (our level of privilege, level of income, connections, our genetic heritage, talent, etc) or is it something else?
 
Where does enoughness come from?
 
Recent scientific research is showing that the experience of not enoughness is due to one habitual pattern of thinking that we develop in early childhood.
 
It’s also suggesting that when we relax this habit and choose to not run the pattern, we automatically and naturally experience more enoughness.
 
As a result of learning language and other things, our brains create two separated neural networks called the Intrinsic and Extrinsic neural networks. These two neural networks literally divide our experience between what our brain has decided is “us” (usually our body, our life’s story and our imagined future) and what our brain has decided is everything else (usually everything that is not our body, our life story and our imagined future).
 
This separated experience creates a life where we often times feel like either we are not enough, or that we don’t have enough of something, or both.
 
So what can we do to experience more enoughness?
 
Recent research on the happiest people alive is strongly suggesting that the reasons these people are happy is because they have begun to un-seperate these two neural networks. These people have begun to integrate the Intrinsic and Extrinsic neural networks inside their brains and this creates a more integrated experience between what they think is them and what they think is everything else. They literally begin to feel at one with everything.
 
Many of the people being studied have practiced meditation for decades in order to facilitate this integration process. Because we now have the ability to see inside their brains to witness what happens when they are at their happiest, many people are starting to consider how others might be able to speed up this process to experience similar levels of happiness in their lives.
 
Here is one idea on how we can begin doing this now:
 
Think of you having two control knobs that control your experience. One knob controls your experience of everything that is not you, and the other controls your experience of yourself.
 
Now picture the knob that controls your experience of everything that is not you as one that turns down your expectations of situations.
 
You can use this knob to turn down expecting to get the feeling of enoughness from any situation.
 
Anytime you find yourself worrying, angry or regretful about any situation, you can simply turn down this knob and let go of expecting to get the feeling of enoughness from that situation. Try this out with something in your life right now. You might find simply turning down your expectation can instantly help you feel lighter or freer.
 
Now picture the knob that controls your experience of yourself as one that turns up your willingness to notice and bring out the feeling of enoughness through yourself.
 
Anytime you are feeling not enoughness, you can turn up this knob to become more willing to notice and bring out the feeling of enoughness through yourself into whatever the situation is.
 
You might find that if you simply stop focusing on your mental story for a second or two and focus on how it feels to be alive in your body in that moment, it gets easier to feel the enoughness that is already there in your experience whenever you want to. Try this out right now and see how it works for you.
 
You can make experimenting with these two experience knobs into a game you play everyday. The more you use these two knobs, the better at it you get and, in my experience, the more happiness you can experience more quickly.
 
In using these two knobs, you are helping the Intrinsic and Extrinsic neural networks in your brain become more integrated. You are changing your brain to experience more and more happiness.
 
-Andy
 
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Thought for the Day:

What we do everyday, we get really really really good at.

-Andy

Is Your Life Working for You or Against You? 4 Simple Steps that Put Life to Work for You Now

If you’ve ever wished life was easier, then this post is for you.

What if there was a way to make every difficult situation instantly start working for you instead of against you?

What if the more challenging the situation was, the harder it could immediately start to work to improve your life?

Would you be curious about how to do this?

Check out these 4 simple steps on how to put life to work for you now.

Let’s first take a look at what a problem or challenge really is.

A problem is nothing more than your current idea of yourself feeling threatened.

Think back to any problem you’ve had and you can discover that the reason it felt like a problem was that it was threatening in some way to your self concept at the time.

The bigger the problem, the more your idea of yourself felt threatened.

We can use this to our advantage and let life begin working for us anytime we experience a problem.

We can begin to use the experience of having certain types of problems as a way to evolve past the need for them in our lives.

Let’s take a look at the steps we go through when we experience a problem.

Step 1) You are there with your current idea of yourself

Step 2) A problem happens and your current idea of your self feels threatened

We then have three possible choices to make if you want to feel better:

  1. Distract ourselves from our feelings

  2. Change the circumstance to one with which we’ll feel better or

  3. Discover how we are more than our current idea of our self

Again, a problem is nothing more than our current idea of our self feeling threatened.

When we choose option three, we allow ourselves the opportunity to not only eliminate the current problem, but also to eliminate all similar problems in the future. when we do this we move onto:

Step 3) Discover how you are more than your current idea of yourself

Step 4) You live with a new more unlimited idea of yourself. This eliminates the problem and all other problems like it.

The next time you experience a problem, try asking yourself these two questions to discover a more unlimited idea of yourself:

Question 1) “What image of myself is feeling threatened in this situation?”

Take a moment to discover what idea you have of yourself that is feeling threatened. It will usually be some kind of idea of how you are good in some way, like “I am smart” or “I am a nice person” or something like that.

Question 2) “How am I discovering I am more than this now?”

Allow yourself to explore how you can be now beyond the limiting idea of yourself you just discovered. Take the time to really feel the difference.

When we choose to discover how we are more than our current idea of ourselves, we are evolving. When we do this, we are instantly on the same team as life itself. We quickly discover how much life wants us to expand and is already helping us do that every day. Doing this puts life to work for us (as it has been all along).

-Andy

How to Use Worry to Your Advantage

Do you find yourself worrying about things?

Do you sometimes catch yourself thinking about all the possible things that could go wrong?

Well if so, this is good news, and I’m serious!

The process of worrying is actually the same process as being at the highest level of happiness – plus two additional unnecessary steps.

Once you discover these two additional unnecessary steps and get better at forgetting to take them, what used to be worry can be happiness at the highest level.

Let me explain.

When we worry about something, we first have to be open to what else is possible. We have to open up to what else might be possible now in the current situation, essentially asking ourselves:

“What else is possible now?”

This is the same process we go through to be happy at the highest level: we stay open to what else is possible.

When we worry though, we are simply taking two additional steps that create the feelings or worry.

After asking the first question, our brain usually discovers one possibility that we wouldn’t want to have happen and then we allow this thought to frame the rest of our exploration. From that point on, instead of staying open to all else that might be possible, our brain then begins to look only for those things that might happen as a result of the first negative idea.

For example: You look at your 401K and it’s down from last month. You open to what else is possible essentially asking yourself:

“What else is possible now?”

Your brain answers: “I could loose everything in my 401K like some people did in 2008”.

Your brain then asks: “What else might happen if I loose everything?” and then it continues to explore only what else might be possible if that happened. And then you’re in worry land, thinking about all the negative things that might happen.

So the steps to how to worry might look like this:

Step 1: Be open to what else is possible

Step 2: Find one negative scenario that is possible

Step 3: Close off to all other possibilities and explore only things that could happen as a result of that

The happiest people have discovered that continuing to stay open to what else is possible throughout the entire process, is one of the keys to happiness at the highest level.

Not allowing your brain to settle on just one scenario to explore IS staying happy at the highest level.

For example: You look at your 401K and it’s down from last month. You open to what else is possible essentially asking yourself:

“What else is possible now?”

Your brain might answer: “I could loose everything in my 401K like some people did in 2008”. And then it might ask: “What else might happen if I loose everything?”

But if you continue to stay open to what else is possible instead of exploring only that one possible scenario, you might ask yourself:

“What if I don’t? What else would be possible?”

Then you are keeping your experience open and curious about all possibilities and you might find that worry becomes impossible when you do this.

So the steps to how to not worry might look like this:

Step 1: Be open to what else is possible

Step 2: Be open to what else is possible

Step 3: (You guessed it) Be open to what else is possible

Here are a few questions you can ask yourself to keep from going into worry and staying at the highest levels of happiness:

Money: Your brain says: “What if I loose everything?” You say: “What if I don’t? What else is possible now?”

Relationships: Your brain says: “What if he or she leaves me?” You say: “What if they don’t. What else is possible now?”

Health: Your brain says: “What if I don’t get better?” You say: “What if I do?What else is possible now?”

Art: Your brain says: “What if my life has no purpose?” You say “What if it does?What else is possible now?”

If this feels exciting, try this out the next time you catch yourself starting to explore only the negative things that could happen.

-Andy

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How to Stay Happy When Dealing with People: Two Simple Rules

We’ve all had times where we’ve felt uncertain, confused or even downright frustrated with our ability to deal with people and stay happy.

Sometimes dealing with people or a particular person can become so overwhelming or negative that we want to stop or limit our interacting with all people.

Have you ever felt this way?

What if there were two simple guidelines that could help us navigate the sometimes murky waters of how to relate to other people and make sure we can stay happy throughout the entire process?

What if by following these two rules you could avoid or severely limit the negativity when interacting with other people for the rest of your life?

If this sounds useful, read the rest of this post to discover how you might be able to have a much lighter, freer, happy and vastly more productive time interacting with all people from now on.

The first idea in understanding these two rules is the idea of staying above the line.

The idea of being above the line was first developed by the Conscious Leadership Group and it represents the idea of being in the optimal state of mind to be happy and effective.

You can learn more about it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fLqzYDZAqCI

My interperatation of staying above the line simply means that we make sure we are assuming two things about ourselves when we interact with another person:

1) We assume that we are the one in charge of how we feel (not them) and
2) We assume that we are the one in charge of our lives improving (not them)

When we make sure we carry these two assumptions when interacting with others, we are ensuring that we can interact with them from a place of completeness and integrity. We are not expecting the two vital responsibilities of being in charge of how we feel, and making sure our lives are improving to come from any other person or situation other than ourselves. We are not expecting to outsource these vital responsibilities to the other person, consciously or unconsciously, so we are free to relate to them any way we choose to without feeling the need for them to show up in a particular way.

When we stay above the line with people by making sure we are assuming these two things, we feel free to relate to people much more openly, honestly and freely. This is half of the equation to staying happy while relating to another person:

Rule #1: Always stay above the line when interacting with another person.

But as you know, just because you decide to stay above the line with someone, that doesn’t mean that they will decide to stay above the line with you.

We’ve all been in situations where we are staying true to ourselves and making sure we don’t bring negativity into relating with another person, only to have the other person choose to relate to us with more negativity.
This is the reality of relating to others. We all get to choose whether we stay above or below the line, and no one can choose for us.

While you staying above the line certainly can make it easier for the other person to get or stay above the line also, sometimes they simply might not want to be above the line. Many people you meet will not know what it is to be above the line and many will not have made the commitment to themselves to interact with others from above the line.

All we can do is commit to ourselves that we will stay above the line when interacting with other people AND that we will not fall into a pattern of enabling another person to stay below the line.

Many people fall into the trap of assuming responsibility for how others feel or for their lives improving in some way. Over time, this brings negativity into relating to the other person because you are enabling them to stay below the line. You are making it easier for them to not assume these two things:

1) That they are the one in charge of how they feel (not you) and
2) That they are the one in charge of their lives improving (not you)

This is the other half of the equation for staying happy while relating to another person:

Rule #2: Never enable another person to stay below the line.

When we follow these two simple rules, we are guaranteeing ourselves and others the maximum amount of happiness when interacting with them:

Rule #1: Always stay above the line when interacting with another person.

Rule #2: Never enable another person to stay below the line.

-Andy

Thought for the Day: We Are in a Time of Transition

We are in a time of transition in human history.

We are moving from a time where our confidence came from having certainty about things to a time where now our confidence comes from how much we can enjoy and make use of not being certain.

-Andy

Thought for the Day: How to Change Your Life Forever: Noticing that “I am”

The noticing of “I am” is the purest experience of our self and our life that we can have. The noticing that we simply exist.

Every other experience is a subset of this main experience.

When we notice that “I am” – period, without adding any other ideas to it, we are experiencing the simple, pure truth of our existence.

Noticing that “I am” (I’m saying “I am” because that’s how we experience it; it’s the closest thing to what we would say to our self if we were saying something to our self as we experience it) is the only real truth of ourselves.

Every other additional idea – or any other word we might add to the phrase “I am”, is a choice, and this choice becomes reality for us as soon as we make it.

Whatever we assume “we are” becomes real for us and we experience ourselves and our life through that assumption.

“I am not good at relationships”, or “I am awesome at relationships”, “I am terrible with money” or I am really good with money” are all examples of ideas we add onto the truth that “I am” through our choice.

We always have the ability to hit the reset button on any assumption and let it go if we discover that it’s not making our life better.

By simply remembering that “I am” – period, from there, we can choose whatever additional ideas we want to add to “I am” if we want to, or simply let the assumptions that are no longer useful disappear in the simple truth that “I am”.

-Andy

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Are you a Good Person or a Bad Person? Take this Simple Test to Find Out.

What does it mean to be a good person or a bad person?

In this time period with so many differing ideas about what this means being thrown around, I thought it might be useful to get back to basics and get super clear about what it means to be good or bad.

How would you like to be absolutely certain about whether you or someone else is behaving like a good person or a bad person?

Would this clarity be helpful?

What if being a good person or being a bad person can be defined by only one behavior?

Check out this simple definition and find out if it rings true with your experience:

A bad person is someone who tries to make someone else be less, under the delusion that they will be more because of it.

A good person is simply someone who doesn’t do that.

That’s it!

Let me know your thoughts on this. Thanks!

– Andy

What Controls Your Happiness?

Happiness is an experience.

What controls your experience?

Your attention: what you focus your attention on, you experience.

What controls your attention?

Your choice: only your choice can change what your attention gets focused on.

What controls your choice?

Nothing: you ARE choice; you are the freedom to choose.

All we are is the freedom to choose what we focus our attention on, and thus everything we experience.

Remembering that we have and are this choice is happiness.

Forgetting that we have and are this choice is unhappiness.

-Andy

How to Keep Your Heart Safe

Effort and stress are a result of your brain attempting to keep your heart safe.

Simply remembering to put your attention on how your heart is feeling right now, is the strongest protection your heart can ever have or will ever need.

Anytime something feels less than exciting or effortless, simply focus your attention on how your heart is feeling right now and discover what happens!

-Andy

The Anatomy of a Problem/The Anatomy of Conflict

The root cause of every problem is the assumption that someone or something other than you has the power to be in charge of how you feel about yourself.

Have a problem with your job?

Have a problem with your relationship?

Have a problem with your health?

Have a problem with what to do with your life?

Have a problem with the government?

Have a problem with then system?

Let go of this assumption and the problem will disappear. Then all that will be left are choices about what to do next.

-Andy

The Anatomy of a Problem-The Anatomy of Conflict

Thought for the Day:

Never let the stuff that happens in your life choose the roles you play.

Never let the roles you play in life choose how you feel about yourself.

Never let how you feel about yourself choose what else is possible for you.

-Andy

How to Have Happiness and Success

There are always two parts to our life: the known and the unknown.

Happiness is successfully dealing with the unknown, and success is happily dealing with the known.

The two steps to become an expert at anything are:

  1. eliminate all your choices – except for the ones that work the absolute best, and
  2. do enough correct repetitions of making only those choices, that they becomes a habit

To successfully deal with the unknown, we can eliminate all choices except for the following three:

  1. exploring it
  2. discovering it
  3. appreciating it

If you want to be happier with anything that is unknown in your life (how you could make more money, how to find or keep a relationship strong, ways you might be able to improve your health, what your true purpose might be, etc.), make sure you are only doing the above things when you deal with it. Any other choice will lead you further away from happiness with it.

To happily deal with the known, we can eliminate all choices except for these following three:

  1. improving it
  2. enjoying it
  3. celebrating it

If you want to be more successful with anything that is known (your current job situation, a relationship, your current health, what you know to be your life’s purpose, etc), make sure you are only doing these above three things when you deal with it. Any other choice will lead you further away from success with it.

-Andy

How to Make Ultra Clear Decisions

We all know how it feels to have trouble making a decision. When wait for the right insight or the right feeling and it doesn’t come quickly, we can sometimes feel a high level of uncertainty and anxiety.

How would you like to have the ability to make the right insight or the right feeling come to you more quickly – maybe even instantly? How would you like to have the ability to make decisions confidently all the time?

After reading this, you might discover that you already have this ability, you may have just been doing something extra that has gotten in the way of your natural ability to make clear, confident decisions.

Confidence is the ability to interact with the unknown and still feel how you want to.

Confidence is the ability to interact with new, unfamiliar situations and still feel the feelings you want.

Or in teenager speak: (Like) confidence is being able to deal with stuff without freaking out (so, yeah).

This is being responsible or response-able – having the ability to respond.

What gets in the way of us being confident ( and our ability to make clear decisions) is when a situation that is new (the unknown) does not match up with the pictures in our head about how we think things should be in that moment.

This is when people who are not response-able experience what they call “a problem”.

Or in other words, this is when people who are less confident sometimes freak out.

Without there being a picture in your head about how you think things should go, any new unknown situation would be easy to deal with. It would be no different than dealing with any other situation, right?

So the solution to being more confident in life and making clearer decisions, is not building up your idea of yourself and adding some new level of ego to your identity, it’s simply to let go of holding onto pictures in your head about how you think things should go – that’s it.

Once you let go of the habit of holding onto pictures in your head about how you think things should go, you will feel your natural confidence. It’s naturally what is underneath all the extra mental activity that we have grown up being conditioned to think we need.

You might then discover that the only thing you ever have to decide in life is the very next thing you will do – that’s it!

You only ever need to decide what you will do in the very next moment only. Making decisions can feel as easy as having a fun conversation with a really good friend: 

Decide on and say only one sentence at a time and then leave a space for your friend (your life) to say something back.

-Andy

Thought for the Day: How to Be Happy Long Term

Over the long haul,

any situation in your life is only as good as the system you have in place to continue to improve it.

Otherwise it is here and gone, or it is here and you will want it to be gone.

Any system you have in place to continue to improve something is only as good as you continuing to be the only one in charge of how you feel about yourself.

Otherwise you will rely on the system or it’s results to make you feel good about yourself and you will always fear loosing it or you will be afraid of it changing.

You being the only one in charge of how you feel about yourself is only as good as you continuing to choose the energy you want to feel each moment.

Otherwise you will experience less happiness than you could.

You continuing to choose the energy you want to feel each moment is only as good as you continuing to be open to what else is possible.

Otherwise you will only try to get everything that happens to match up with the pictures in your head and you will never discover your best life possible that you couldn’t possibly have imagined yet that is already happening every moment right now.

-Andy

Thought for the Day:

When looking at my life now verses when I was younger, the basic way things happen has not changed – I still have no idea what will happen in the future.

What has changed, is that now I no longer care to know what will happen in the future, and this has made all the difference in my level of happiness and it has allowed me to notice more quickly how everything that does happen is the absolute best possible thing for the improving of my life.

-Andy

How to Feel Safe and Enjoy Uncertainty

There are two feelings – two types of experiences – that we are always attempting to keep balanced in our lives:

  1. Feeling safe

  2. Feeling alive

First we crave to feel safe; to know with some level of certainty that we will continue to survive. Once we feel safe enough, then we crave feeling more alive.

If we focus on creating too much safety in our lives, we can begin to feel less alive. And if we focus on creating too much aliveness in our lives, we can begin to feel unsafe.

We’ve all had times in our lives when we felt bored, less than excited, or trapped in a job, a relationship or a situation because we were trying to create too much safety.

Many of us have also experienced times when we threw caution to the wind trying to feel more alive, or maybe in an attempt to free ourselves from one of the above situations, and jumped into a circumstance that had very little or no safety – maybe having no source of income, no relationships to rely on, or a situation where your health was compromised.

What we ultimately want is the perfect balance of feeling safe and alive simultaneously. We want enough safety to know we will be O.K., and enough aliveness to feel excited about living every moment.

One mistake that most of us make is assuming that feelings of safety come from knowing the future. We think that if we have enough certainty about what will happen, then that is how we get the feeling of safety.

The problem with assuming this is that our brains were not designed to know the future. It is impossible for us to know what will happen – period. So anytime we get a feeling of safety from attempting to know the future, it is because we are believing our own bullshit – we are believing in the lie that we know how things will go this time.

Using the strategy of trying to guess the future in order to feel safe is , in my opinion, is the number one cause of stress, fear, doubt, a lack of confidence and yes – feeling unsafe!

So how do we feel safe and alive at the same time with the perfect balance every moment?

Here are three simple steps to experiment with, if you you want:

  1. Decide that you will always be willing to be open to what else is possible – even when things seem really certain! If you make this decision, you can have 100% certainty about how you will approach the unknown, and this is all the certainty your brain actually needs in order to feel safe.

  2. Make the following phrase into a habit by repeating it to yourself 100 times:

What am I no longer expecting this to become, and what else is possible now?”

    1. Practice using this phrase in your everyday life, when things seem uncertain AND when things seem certain. You might be amazed at how much more alive you can feel! Even after using it 100 times or less, you will have developed the balancing of feeling safe and feeling alive into a lifelong habit.

– Andy

Happiness is Separating the Energy from the Story

When we’re feeling less than happy with what is a happening and we want to feel better, we have only two main choices.

We can choose to focus on the story of what is happening, or we can choose to focus on the energy we would rather be feeling.

The story is simply the details of the stuff that is happening; the who, the what, the when, the where, the how and the what if.

When we focus only on the story, it’s easy to start feeling less happiness than we want, especially when the story isn’t happening in a way we expected or in a way that doesn’t match up with our version of how we think it should be.

The energy is the feeling experience we want. It’s simply the answer to the question:

How would I want to be feeling now if I had the choice?”

When we focus on the energy we want more than on the story, we gain more choice about how we feel. We can start to notice that the story and the energy aren’t necessarily connected.

In other words, we can begin to see that we can choose to feel how we want to, whether the story is happening the way we expected or not. We can begin to see that our happiness is not bound to the story happening in any particular way.

We can begin to notice that being happy IS separating the energy from the story – not having the story be happy all the time.

Then we might notice how this can apply to every area of our lives:

Happiness with finances is separating the money from the work.

Happiness with people is separating the love from the relationship.

Happiness with health is separating our sense of vitality from our body.

Happiness with our art is separating the excitement of creating from what we are creating.

-Andy

Fear of Change is Fear of Not Being Happy

Many people grow up being afraid of making changes in their life because they’re afraid they won’t be happy once things change.

But when they develop the skill of being happy regardless of their circumstances, they feel the confidence and freedom to experiment with their life and discover what else is possible without any fear to stop them or slow them down.

They realize circumstances are not where happiness comes from, so making changes becomes a fun, playful, exciting process of discovery because they know they can be happy no matter how things turn out.

AND – more often than not – their circumstances continue to improve because they continue to experiment.

The happiest people are the people who learn to separate their happiness from their circumstances.

-Andy

Is Your Future Being Stolen Out from Under You? Find Out in 9 Questions.

The next time you find yourself reacting to, responding to, writing or talking about any of the following issues, consider taking a moment to ask yourself these questions to find out if your future is being stolen out from under you.

Here are the issues:

Anything regarding the election

gun control

Muslim terror

The latest national security threat

The latest viewpoint of what is or is not politically correct

Here are the questions:

  1. Am I 100% happy with how every area of my life is going right now?

  2. Do I have proven systems in place that are consistently improving these areas of my life that do not require all my time, energy and focus?

  3. Knowing that to consistently improve any area of my life, what’s required is that I consistently focus my attention, energy and time on discovering and implementing the things necessary to allow those improvements to happen, does it make sense for me to be spending my time, energy and focus on this right now?

  4. Knowing that there are only so many years left in my life, so many months in each year, and so many hours in each day, is me focusing on this as much as I have been the best use of my time and energy?

  5. Knowing that every moment I spend focusing on things that have no way of improving my life, I am missing valuable opportunities to create greater long term happiness for myself and those I care about, does it make sense for me to focus on this as much as I have been?

  6. Do I believe that major corporations do make, and will continue to make, decisions that are, and will be, in my best interest and will help me to design my life closer to how I want it to be?

  7. Knowing that at least 80% of all main stream media outlets are owned by only 5 major corporations, does it make sense for me to rely on them to choose for me what is important to spend my time, energy and focus on?

  8. If I look objectively at the things I have said and written about these topics, how many of the words and phrases have I heard through main stream media outlets?

  9. What might be possible in my life if I had more time, energy and attention to put towards creating my life the way I want it?

    -Andy

The Happiness Minute: How to Turn Stress Into Happiness

Here’s a new 2 minute video with 4 ways to instantly turn stress into happiness.

-Andy