How to Change Your Life So It Will Last

Matter reacts to your WHY.

Your WHY is the underlying assumption (or belief) that is behind an action that you take. It’s the underlying reason you are choosing to do it.

Whether you are aware of the true reason you are doing something or not, the stuff in your life – the matter – will react to it and line up to support this assumption (this belief) being true.

Matter reacts to your WHY.

While there are many reasons why you might choose to do something, all of them fall into only two main categories of WHY:

  1. Reasons that are based on you assuming you are not enough now and

  2. Reasons that are based on you assuming you are always more than enough

When you do something because of reasons in category one, you are doing it to complete your mental idea of yourself. To get the feeling that you are enough.

When you do something because of reasons in category two, you are doing it simply because it is the best expression of how you can be more than enough right now. You already feel that you are more than enough now and the reason to choose doing this thing is because it is simply the best way to continue to feel it right now.

When our WHY is based on category one reasons, we become obsessed with trying to predict and know the HOW, the WHAT, the WHEN, the WHERE and the WHO related to our choice.

When our WHY is based on category two reasons, we aren’t that concerned about knowing the HOW, the WHAT, the WHEN, the WHERE and the WHO related to our choice; we simply enjoy the process of discovering them when and however it happens.

Matter reacts to your WHY.

For example: let’s say you decide to change jobs. You are tired of your current job because it has too many hours and not enough pay. If you change because of a reason in category one, you are feeling like you are not enough now and you are hoping that the new job with less hours and less pay will help you feel like you can finally be more of a complete person. You have probably been feeling a little obsessed with trying to predict and know the HOW, the WHAT, the WHEN, the WHERE and the WHO related to making this decision and you finally decide to go for it.

The problem with this is, that without changing the underlying reason – the WHY – behind your actions, you carry the same assumption (belief) into the new job – that you are not enough now, and your life will continue to react and line up with this assumption.

Then once you are in the new job, guess what happens?

You are there with less hours and more pay and it feels good for a while, but your assumption that you are not enough is still there operating in the background causing the stuff – the matter – to line up with it and prove it to be true.

So then your new boss comes to you and gives you more hours, or you suddenly have unexpected new bills or monthly expenses, or any number of other things happen, and you are right back to feeling like you are not enough and you are again experiencing a life that is proving it. You again, become obsessed with trying to predict and know the HOW, the WHAT, the WHEN, the WHERE and the WHO related to your next choice whatever that might be. Does this seam familiar?

The most common reaction to this kind of situation is to blame our circumstances and to once again, try to change our situation, but the change won’t feel any different in the long run and the circumstances won’t be different in the way we were hoping for long unless and until the underlying assumption behind our actions changes.

Let’s run the same scenario using a reason from category two. So you decide to change jobs. You are aware of a different job opportunity that feels more exciting to you than your current job. If you change because of a reason in category two, you are already feeling that you are always more than enough – no matter what job you are in. You feel like you could stay at your current job and still feel like you are always more than enough, but this new opportunity feels like a better choice for you to explore more exciting ways for you to be always more than enough right now.

You start working at the new job realizing that this is just one of many options you have to enjoy the process of experiencing yourself as always more than enough, and this option simply feels like the most exciting option right now. You are not really that concerned about knowing the HOW, the WHAT, the WHEN, the WHERE and the WHO about what might happen in the future because you know that no matter what happens, you always have the choice to choose the options that feel most in line with how you want to be.

And you know that matter reacts to your WHY.

If you want a simple way to know if you are making a choice that will actually make a positive change that will last, remember this one question that works for any decision big or small:

“What’s this the most exciting thing to do right now?”

The answer to this question, is the right choice for your to make – period. Here’s why:

The most exciting option is always the option that is attempting to line up with you assuming you are always more than enough. It is your greatest growth opportunity in that moment.

By you consistently choosing to focus on and act on the most exciting options, you are automatically choosing a WHY based on the assumption that you are always more than enough.

Think about it for a second.

When you pay attention, you’ll notice that the most exciting options aren’t always the easiest ones. In fact, more often than not, they are the options that require you to stretch beyond your current limits – but not too far.

The feeling of excitement is a result of you choosing the option that represents your maximum growth opportunity in that moment. It is right between the options that feel boring and the options that feel overwhelming. If you look, you will always find the most exciting option right there.

This is what many people have called following your instincts or trusting your gut. This is what every master of anything relies on more than anything else when making key decisions – and you have this ability too.

The most exciting choice is the natural choice of assuming that you are always more than enough and that there is always more than enough. When you feel excited about doing something, it is your life’s invitation to prove it to be true now.

The stuff in your life – the matter – will react to this assumption and line up to prove it to be true. It has no choice but to do this.

Matter reacts to your WHY.

But how can I do the most exciting option all the time? How will eat? What about money?

You might make more money. Check out this video on how this relates to money and business and how people buy your WHY not your WHAT:


But what about my relationships? The people in my life won’t understand me doing the most exciting thing all the time. I have responsibilities!

You might experience more love in your life. When you assume that you are always more than enough, you have way more to give to others and this will show up in stronger, more connected and deeper relationships – not always in the way you might think or with the people you might think now.

But what about my health? If I do the most exciting thing all the time, I might neglect my health and be in real trouble!

You might be healthier. During my first experiments with doing only the most exciting thing before I wrote the book “Grow Happy”, one of the unplanned results was that I became very interested in learning about eating healthier and exercise. I got into the best shape of my life, got to 11.5% body fat ratio, and developed life long understandings and habits that have continued to this day.

What about my life’s purpose? If I only focus on and do the most exciting thing, I might neglect and miss out on my true calling.

You might discover that you paying attention to and acting on your greatest excitement is the only way to truly discover your highest and best purpose. As things unfold, you might become very surprised about the things you were holding yourself back from that could have a true impact on helping yourself and the world be a better place.

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-Andy

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